Give Until it Hurts with Kathryn Froelich

Generosity is highly valued uh the giveaways you know and naming ceremonies you know at all of those ceremonies there’s always um some gift giving you know and even like uh for example if you’re going to we’re just talking about storytelling if some if you’re going to ask for a story there’s a way to do that too you know you give a gift tobacco or you know there’s certain protocol that you have to use uh don’t have to not everybody but it’s just like um it’s kind of a rule you know that you know you offer something up but um when you said generosity I thought about you know our traditional ways and I hope that this will for our communities trigger bringing back a lot of the traditional ways including you know with generosity uh the one that I think about the most is my I have four children and uh my third to the oldest Lance he got married about 18 years ago and um my mother said um you know when Lance gets married I want you to do it the way that my family did it and I said really okay and she had told me about this before but I said okay you know she’s 97 today but this was you know a few years ago she said yes she said you I want you to do it the way and then she told me exactly what we needed to do so we did um daughter-in-law and my son had a Catholic wedding and so before the actual Catholic wedding uh we gathered everybody outside of the church and we had to gather my mom said Gather Goods you know um that means blankets and all these gifts that you’re going to give because you’re going to give those you give the best to your daughter-in-law’s family and that’s what happened to her they had her my mother’s family had gathered all these wonderful gifts from the family and then uh gave it to her future in-laws and they could do whatever they wanted with it so we raised Quarter Horses so she said remember you give the best you don’t give the cheap stuff you know so my husband said okay we’ll do it that way so we raised registered Quarter Horses so we gave we brought um two Colts and um we had them in the horse trailer in the back of the church and then we all gathered together and my brother and my sister were there and before we did that actual giving uh we laid a blanket they laid a blanket on the ground and they brought my daughter-in-law future daughter-in-law Sunshine over and Lance and I it was just I’m sorry it was just so beautiful anyway and then my brother saying my grandfather’s song and my mother was there so that was like honoring someone who pasted and it was just beautiful I think everybody was crying but anyway and so um they put them on the blanket and they did a blessing and then my brother sang the song with handra uh it was my grandpa’s song and then my other son and my husband brought the horses over and then we had this big basket of goods and we took it over to her family they gave it to her and then they brought the horses over and they handed it over to her to her family they could do whatever they wanted with it you know they could give it to someone else or they could you know so um I think everybody remembered that everybody that was present indan and non- indan because she was non- indan um and it was just fulfilling what she my mother wanted you know so anyway sorry about that beautiful Beau yeah so those traditional ways you know are we’re beautiful you know the generosity involved and um my mother said you know those giveaways especially at funerals and Things She Said in endan what they say is give until it hurts